Monday, September 22, 2008

I almost forgot!

I almost forgot that it was ICLW! Thanks to Kirke who left me a comment on a really old post, which reminded me! So, not much has been happening on the TTC front. I have been very busy in life, getting ready for a craft show, working on our condo, etc. (which you can read on my other blog that I have been writing more on if you like).

It has now officially been 2 years since I went of BCP and we started TTC. This last year has been filled with us just trying to relax (I know I know I hate it when people tell you to just relax, but it's the truth) and trying to figure out how we want to proceed. I know I've written before that we are not quite sure how we feel about infertility treatment to begin with and until recently we haven't been in a place to even think about adoption or explore how we feel about that avenue.
But, now I think we are ready to take the first "baby steps" into finding out what is going on with us. I have my annual appt. in Oct. at which time we are going to proceed with as many tests as we can get through my regular doc. We had two postitive tests before, but got distracted with life before we went on to pursue more.

It may seem to some that we are moving at a snail's pace in our pursuit for a family. And I must admit, we are. But, that is kind of how we do things. We don't like to be pressured and don't like to be desperate for anything. But we both agree we at least need to begin to figure out what our options are.

All in all, over the last 2 years, I think taking our time has given us some freedom. As much as we very much want to have our own children, I think we are coming to the conclusion that if for some reason that is not meant to be, then we would be fine being aunt and uncle, sister and brother, husband and wife, and all the other titles that help define who we are.

How do you define yourself? Do you need children to describe who you are?

12 comments:

Mrs Woggie said...

I wish we were moving at a snail's pace. Everything seems to have to be done yesterday with our IF treatment. You need to do it how it suits you. Best of luck with your upcoming doctors appointment.

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Kristin said...

Good luck with your upcoming doctor's appointment. There is no single right way to handle infertility. You have to do what is right for you and your partner.

ICLW

Ophelia said...

I wish I knew how to be more laid back about TTC. I wish I had the ability to just take it one month at a time, but I can't. Kudos to you! GL with your appointment!

Michelle said...

Sometimes it seems to move fast and other times it moves so slow. I think everyone has moments of both. I hope your doctor's appointment goes well.

~Jess said...

Good luck with your doctor's visit: As Kristin said you have to do what's right for you.

ICLW

Cara said...

My mother told us after Emma died,
"Take some time to really be together as a couple before you try again". She was the only one. Everyone else thought having another baby right away would somehow "patch" the gaping hole in our hearts.

We waited and those two years built "US" in a way words don't do justice. Good for you for taking your time and being with your husband every step of the way!

Martha said...

Happy ILCW and Best Wishes on these next steps. You sound like such a wonderful couple that joy will be part of your life, no matter what!

m de p said...

Here from ICLW.

Well, I guess I'm a serious snail because it took us FOUR years before we got tests and did any treatment. We did only one IUI and then moved straight to adoption. You know best what is right for you, whether it's IUI, IVF, nothing, being an aunt, surrogacy, adoption, etc... Glad I found your blog!

Rela Pantaleon-Manigsaca said...

Hi Kim, just got back from your craft blog...was wondering where I can leave my IF-related comment...so I finally found this!

I dug a bit into this blog and can't find a post re your diagnosis. Can you point me where I can find that?

I blog on IF separately, too, under my pseudonym Arpee @ The Saga of Becoming Fruitful

Portraits In Sepia said...

I don't think I need kids to define who I am. But I struggle with raising kids as being my contribution to the world and validating my place on this earth. I am trying to get over that.

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bendingbackwards said...

Here from ICLW.

I am a strong believer in putting yourself first. I wish you the very best.

DrSpouse said...

People sometimes as "do you have a family" - they asked when I was single too. Yes, I do - I have a brother, two nieces, a sister-in-law, two parents, millions of cousins, and an extremely nice husband.

They of course mean kids but they don't seem to be too confused when I mention the other members of the family. I in turn try to be sensitive when asking people who may or may not be single (e.g. Do you have family in the area? not Is it just you then?)

(ICLW visitor)